I tend to shy away from highly political and highly religious topics. It’s not that I don’t have an opinion, I just prefer not to get into the chaos and arguments and debates.
But as a Christian with strong connections to the U.S. military; with the 4th of July coming up; on the heels of the June 26th Supreme Court ruling for same sex marriage; and the underlying theme in all of that being freedom, I decided maybe I would weigh in just a tad.
After Friday’s ruling, I was honestly ecstatic. I’m a bleeding heart social worker and a hopeless empath. I want everyone to be happy and healthy. I want us to all accept each other and I want love to win.
And I believe it does.
Friday also happened to be the day of my final divorce hearing. It was a stressful and emotional day of love losing in my personal life.
So a decision that not only opened the doors of equality to so many, but also demonstrated the goodness of people was truly a refreshing balance that day.
I immediately wanted to share and support and scream, “YES!!! Love really does win!!!”
And then before I could even get that fully posted to my Facebook page, the realization that as a Christian, my view of this decision may be a minority hit me like a ton of bricks.
Most of Facebook looked like the skittles factory threw up that day. And it was beautiful. But like with most controversial issues, it didn’t take long to start seeing the negative comments.
And I’m sad to say the majority came from Christians.
On Saturday, I went to church. I wondered if the same sex marriage issue would get discussed. It was toward the end of the sermon, but it finally came. And I didn’t mean to but I sort of held my breath in anxious anticipation of what he’d say about it.
At first he said what many other Christians are saying. “This is just the tip of the iceberg and a decision like this will rock the very core of humanity. This is a crucial time for Christians where we can either blend in or stand up for truth.” At one point he said something that made the entire congregation erupt with claps of agreement.
I honestly cannot remember what words he used. I just remember that I didn’t clap along. My heart sank and I thought, “This is why people don’t like Christians.”
After those statements though, he followed it up by saying that we are called to love people where they are. That it’s our job as Christians to lead people to Jesus through our love, not our judgment and condescension.
And that’s the part I can get behind.
The biggest problem I have with the judgment and fear-based resistance people demonstrate about a decision made like the one on Friday is that it wasn’t a religious decision. It was a legal decision. A decision of equal rights.
There are atheists who get married every single day. There are gay people who are Christians. And it is not gay people who are eroding the sanctity of marriage.
The divorce rate among Christians is equal to that of the “secular world.”
Christians struggle with the same sins as everyone else. The only difference is that we know who can save us from those things. Not by our works or what we do, but by our faith in God, through His GRACE.
Grace that is available to EVERYONE.
“For ALL have sinned and fall short of the glory of God.” Romans 3:23
If you believe the Bible, the same Bible many use to condemn and judge others who sin differently than them, then you know the Bible says all sin is equal. The Bible talks about God’s hatred of divorce and infidelity and sex before marriage just as it does about same sex relationships. It also talks about that we are not to be jealous or gluttonous or vengeful.
But for some reason, there are certain “sins” that get singled out above others.
Now don’t get me wrong. As a human being who is not God, I have a hard time believing that murder is equal to eating too many sandwiches. But that’s just my mortal brain not being able to fully understand the depth of God’s grace.
I’m not a Bible scholar. I’m not a politician. And I’m not here to get into debates about it all.
All I know for sure is that LOVE DOES WIN.
Want to know how I know?
Because I’ve read the Bible, and according to that, God IS love, and God wins!
“Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love.” 1 John 4:8
So regardless of your personal beliefs, or even your religious beliefs, about who we’re allowed to love and what we do with our genitals, I think it’s important to remember no one down here is God and it’s not our job to decide what sins are forgivable and which ones aren’t.
According to many of the arguments people have against same sex marriage, I’m going to hell just as fast as they are because of my two divorces. And guess what! Divorce isn’t the only horrible thing I’ve done in my life or the only “sin” I struggle with.
But God still loves me.
He still has a place for me in His kingdom.
He still accepts me.
He still calls me His daughter.
His grace is still there for me.
And my faith in and relationship with Him is still ultimately the most important thing.
It works the same way for me as it does for everyone else who chooses a relationship with God.
“For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith—and this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of God.” Ephesians 2:8
So I choose love. Every time, above all else, I choose love.
And I think that’s what God wants us to do.
I think that’s ALL God wants us to do.
He wants us to first love Him, and then love each other. That’s it. That’s where our responsibility in the matter ends.
So relieve yourself of your duty to judge other people’s lifestyle choices or to condemn their relationship choices. Absolve yourself of the need to tell people who to love and how. And don’t worry about gay people ruining the sanctity of marriage.
Seems to me our divorce rate sucked long before Friday, June 26th, 2015.
“Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins.” 1 Peter 4:8
Love wins. And that’s all I have to say about that.