I never used to be a lipstick person. I went through chapstick like it was my job, but lipstick was never my go-to facial accessory. I don’t think I had the confidence it takes to pull it off.
Also, who are we kidding! I’m a mom! Moms aren’t typically the ones spending their momey on make-up; mostly because unless we’re going to work or the rare
vacation trip to Target alone, we don’t have time or need to wear it. Lipstick is a waste of time when I’m at home because in the first 5 minutes of having it on, I’ll kiss it off and my boys will be wearing it more than me.
For my birthday this past year, my sister-in-law gave me a gift certificate to Sephora. I’m not an expensive make-up person either. Not that I wouldn’t love to be, I just can’t usually justify high end make-up when I can get Revlon for much cheaper and it does the job just as well.
But one afternoon, I walked into Sephora feeling rather out of place. They could smell my fear and insecurity. The woman came to help me and asked what I was looking for. I had decided I wanted to get some red lipstick. She gave me several to try and each one I said, “Eh…I feel like it’s too much. I look like I’m trying too hard.” She said, “It looks great, you just don’t have enough confidence!”
Although I felt confident within myself, I realized my insecurities were shining through in that moment. I decided on a less bold pink color and she said, “It’s really pretty. Once you get used to wearing that, come back and get this red one!”
Well, that pink Dior color opened my eyes to a whole new world of empowerment and I haven’t looked back since.
Since getting used to color on my lips and realizing I finally do have much more confidence than I realized, I have branched out and discovered the power of red lips. In fact, I feel pretty naked without it.
“There is a shade of red for every woman.” —Audrey Hepburn
Thanks to my job that forces me to dawn the doors of society, I have to look a little more pulled together than this during the week. I often have people say to me, “You’re a mom!!?!? But you look so together!!???”
This comment always gives me mixed feelings. While it’s a compliment to be told I look pulled together, even if I’m not, it reminds me that people have this assumption that moms are always haggard and worn looking. While we are in fact haggard and worn, we don’t always have to look that way!
Here’s a couple things people who see me and say, “But you look so together” don’t know…
I have found that dry shampoo, a cute outfit, good shoes and red lipstick cover a multitude of flaws!
“It’s really hard to walk in a single woman’s shoes. That’s why we need really special ones now and then to make the walk a little more fun.” Carrie Bradshaw
Here’s the thing. Even if I’m tired, which is basically every day, I have to get dressed. It takes me the same amount of time and effort to put on something nice as it does to wear a t-shirt. So I figure, might as well go for cute! Aside from the fact that I’d be sent home if I showed up in a t-shirt and yoga pants, it makes a difference how I feel to dress up.
Let’s face it. Work is really my only opportunity to look like a human being, so I have to take advantage of what I can!
It also takes the same time and effort to wear chapstick as it does color. I’ve discovered that regardless of how few hours of sleep I got, the pounding headache and the hectic morning that got me there, slapping on some lipstick before I walk into work changes everything about how I feel. And if nothing else, it changes how everyone thinks I feel! 😉
“Pour yourself a drink, put on some lipstick and pull yourself together.” Elizabeth Taylor
Make-up is sort of like jewelry for your face. I put on my make-up in the van every morning 5 minutes before walking into work. Some days, I don’t look that pulled together even with the red lips, but they always help.
Something changes inside when you have bold lips. It says to yourself and to the world, “I’m here.” And that’s a powerful statement.
“Beauty, to me, is about being comfortable in your own skin. That, or a kick-ass red lipstick.” Gwyneth Paltrow
So slap on your red lipstick ladies! Hold your head high and walk proud. You are beautiful even without jewelry on your face, but it never hurts to add a little sparkle. 🙂